Sausage, anyone?

If you were around during the summer you’ll have caught a couple brief references to the very well endowed Italian man (“Italian Stallion”) whom I dumped. I don’t believe I blogged much about him back then (didn’t really blog much at all back then, actually) so let me give you a quick run through. We met on good ol’ POF and after dating here and there for a couple months I told him that I didn’t think we should see each other anymore. I was afraid that the cultural differences would be too much for me to figure out. He was definately a bit hurt that I was calling things off but he handled it graciously and we continued chatting here and there over the last few months since.

Lately, he’s expressed his interest in dating again- but then he also says he’s not sure because of what happened last time. Well we got to chatting on Friday night and decided since we were both sitting home doing nothing, he would come over and watch a movie with me. We actually had a really great time. We talked more than we’ve ever talked before, and we laughed a LOT, and of course laughing led to kissing and kissing led to making out and that led to… you get the picture? The next thing I knew we were snuggling in bed and it was Saturday morning. Even though he has a habbit of snuggling me right off the bed (he likes to get close and really hold on) it was actually really nice! It felt… natural, and comfortable. He was so sweet with his kisses on my forehead and constantly pulling me closer so I could lie my head on his shoulder, and the way he plays with my hair.

You’re probably wondering where I’m going with this. The trouble is, I can’t figure him out any better now than I could then. One of my concerns last time was that he might be a player. Why? Well, mostly because he never took me out on any “real” dates. We were always hanging out at home or car shopping (he had sold his car and was in the market for a new one). Then, there’s the physical aspect… right from the get go it’s been pretty hot and heavy which I’m certainly not complaining about but put those two things together and that screams player, right? When I asked him why- he said that he didn’t have a car at the moment and he wanted to be able to come and pick me up and take me out properly. That was understandable but I still wasn’t sure.

Over our more recent conversations that worry has subsided significantly. He works a lot and it doesn’t seem that he’s been dating anyone. That’s not to say he just hasn’t been open about it, but I’ve been putting pieces together and everything seems to line up. As far as I can tell I have no reason not to trust him. That said, it still doesn’t mean that he’s all that into ME. It’s hard to read someone who’s from a completely different culture. This morning we were talking about getting together again and he made a joke about me cooking for him. I threw back a joke about how real men would take me out. He said that he would, “eventually”. What does that mean? I feel like we’re doing everything backwards but then at the same time when I think about the kind of guy he is it seems to make sense. He doesn’t really go out, he’s much more of a homebody. He doesn’t eat out, he cooks at home all the time. It’s not that he can’t afford it, he makes plenty of cash, and he has a car now (a NICE car, I might add), and he was with the same girl in Italy for 6 years before he came here. Between the things he’s said and what I’m reading into the situation, it seems as though he’s trying to get to know me and find out where I stand before he lets his guard down. He’s told me flat out that he doesn’t think I like him because I am “always making excuses not to see him”. I can’t really blame him for that- dating gives me anxiety so unless it’s planned in advance and I’m mentally prepared for it, I flake out.

It seems like we’re both sitting back wondering if the other person really likes us. So where do I go from here? How do I make sure I’m not getting played while at the same time letting my guard down enough to let a good thing happen if it’s meant to? It doesn’t help that he’s coming over tonight and I don’t really know what to do.

The Zodiac Factor

 I will apologize for this cheesy post in advance- I am just giggly with happiness lately! Life is so much nicer than it was at this time last month! It’s all in how you look at it, I swear. If only I could be this positive 100% of the time!! I know you don’t care- but I don’t care if you don’t care, because this is MY damn blog!- I’ve been talking to Frisky every day this week.. WHAT a sweet guy! I am so amazed at our conversations and by the chemistry we already have, without even having gone out yet. We can talk about anything and everything, it’s like I’ve known him forever! It seems a little surreal, but sometimes you just know when you click with somebody- and well, we click. We click like Hunk and I clicked, and throughout all of my past relationships, I have never felt that kind of connection with someone before. So why twice, now? This is why: I finally figured out enough about myself, to know the KIND of guy I am compatible with.

Okay okay, call me crazy if you want to, I DON’T CARE!! lol… but I am turning into a zodiac believer. No no no, I don’t obsess over reading my horoscope every day, and I’m not so wound up in it that I revolve my life around it, but there is a pattern I have realized and I find it quite interesting- and of course being thirsty for knowledge, I enjoy reading about it and seeing if it corresponds with my every day life. So, here’s the things I’ve noticed:

I’m a Sagittarius… to the bone, perfect example of a Sagittarius. The older I get,  

the more life experience I have, the more this seems

sagittarius

to apply. ALL of my bad relationships have been with Virgo’s (one of my worst zodiac matches). ALL of my good relationships were with Libra’s, (my “middle of the line” zodiac match). The two people I have really clicked with, including several of my best friends, are Aries (my #1 zodiac match).

Now I’m not just talking relationships here, I’m talking friends, co-workers, family, etc. I am actually quite surprised by the accuracy of this. Now, I have an open mind but I’m also realistic enough to know that this is never 100% true, there are many factors that dictate who a person is… but it’s interesting, and it’s fun to see the correlations between zodiac signs and my relationships.

That said- I’m extremely curious to see how my relationship with Frisky, the Aries, turns out ;) I’ll keep ya posted- just in case you do care.