Last week I submitted an application for adoption. Tonight I attended the orientation presentation. Sometime over the next couple of weeks I will submit a criminal record check, and the next phase of paperwork. In 8-10 weeks I will have my first home visit with a social worker, who will ask some very invasive but necessary questions and then schedule me for “training” which will likely begin in September. After that point, more home visits are scheduled and a report is prepared and submitted for approval. If I “pass the test” then I will be eligible to be “matched” with a child (children). This process could take any length of time, but I am hopeful that my openness to sibling groups over the age of six will increase my possible matches. Once a match is found, I am given full disclosure of the child’s background and current state, and visits with that child’s doctors, foster parents, teachers, etc. will take place. If at that point I am confident that this is my child (children) then I will meet the child and we’ll spend a week or so visiting and becoming familiar with each other, and then I will finally move them into my home. After approximately a 4-6 month period, the final adoption papers are drawn up and submitted to the court. Once the order is granted, I become that child’s permanent guardian, and everything from their birth records to their last name is changed to reflect mine.
I am scared shitless. I am also really, really looking forward to it.
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I’ve spent a lot of time lately, contemplating the direction of this blog. The fact of the matter is that there isn’t one, not really. This blog is about me and every aspect of my life. I don’t write strictly about love and dating, or grief, or money, or what I ate for breakfast. I blog about it all. So for that reason I have created the “My Story” page which you will see a tab for at the top of my homepage. The My Story page is meant to summarize the events in my life which have lead to the content on this blog. Because I tend to jump around a lot in my posts, I thought it could be helpful for new and old readers to keep it all straight.