I sit here reading my own “About Me” page several years after I wrote it, and while I am still fundamentally the same person… I’m so very aware at how much has changed in my life since I jotted down those notes about myself and surfed the web for the most appropriate quotes. Because it would break my heart to erase the words that have been strewn across this page for so long, I’ll leave them below, but it’s time for an update.
Since I started this blog in 2009, I’ve chronicled dozens upon dozens of experiences, thoughts, and life altering moments… some in more details than others, and some not entirely publicly.
I worked through my feelings regarding the end of an engagement in 2008. I wrote about the financial struggles I faced after the end of that relationship, and how hard I worked to rebuilt my life, my confidence, and my bank account.
I’ve shared nearly every dating experience I’ve had. The good, the bad, and the ugly. (Otherwise known as the mediocre, the hysterical, and the completely and utterly insane.)
Throughout the course of this blog’s existence I’ve lost the two most influential people in my life. My grandmother in January of 2009, and my father more recently, in November of 2011. Writing about those losses and the dysfunction in my relationship with my father has been instrumental in helping me grieve. I’m not sure I would have made it through without this place.
I’ve said goodbye to friendships here, friendships that didn’t end because anyone did anything wrong… but simply because they’d run their course. Their purpose was outgrown.
Many friendships have also been born here. I’ve sent more emails, more tweets, and planned more vacations to meet these incredible people, than I have with any other friends throughout my life.
I’ve relived some of my most incredible moments here. Like when Canada won the hockey gold at the Vancouver 2010 Olympics and I nearly cried I was so happy… or the first time I realized I was in love with my boyfriend.
I’ve told my readers about the men I’ve loved, and the man I currently love. I’ve shared with you my past, and I’ve opened up about my hopes for the future.
I’ve worked hard at “keeping it real” around here. It’s been hard at times but I’ve always wanted my readers to know that I’m just another human being, full of imperfections like the rest. There is no judgement here… or at least that’s what I’m striving for.
This blog has given me the ability to make sense of my own thoughts, its provided me with many laughs, and has been the root of the most incredible friendships.
Thank you to my readers, for your open-mindedness, your loyalty, and your unfailing love and support.
“Blogs are whatever we make them. Defining “Blog” is a fool’s errand.” ~Michael Conniff
You will never hear me say that I am a writer. I’m not. I’m not a writer, an author, a journalist or anything of the sort. I don’t dream of getting published and I don’t think by any means that my words are worthy of that accomplishment. I’m just another average girl with a blog. This is the most honest space I have.
“Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth.” -Oscar Wilde
My blog isn’t about any one thing, but a multitude of thoughts and topics.
I don’t consider myself to be a “Brazen Careerist” but I am ambitious, I do have a career, and I certainly work hard for my independence and financial freedom.
I’m a middle class, small town, mountain girl, faking her way in the big bad city.
I am not a serial monogamist nor do I proclaim to be always happy with my singledom. I am the in between, happy with my life but patiently searching for someone to share it with. This is not a dating blog where I chronicle all of the dates I go on, but I do write about my personal life and the men involved in it (anonymously, of course). I am better for the experiences I’ve had, and I don’t regret any of them.
“Prevailing single life is a sign of liberating and confusing social times. Whether we choose to be single or are by circumstance, the numbers are growing. While our parents may have had a job and spouse for life, the new future appears to lie in several careers (and partners) and a new definition of singledom that acknowledges the courage it sometimes takes, to live differently.” -Lisa Mitchell
I was born and raised Canadian but have many American relatives. I consider myself to be a political Conservative, however I try to remain open-minded.
I love hockey, spicy food, driving through the Rocky Mountains, and my green eyes. Sometimes I’m a blonde and sometimes I’m a brunette, my natural colour is somewhere in between. Some day I want to road trip the California coast line. I could be in better shape. I’m a Sagittarius and with that comes impulse and impatience. I’m also blunt and sometimes it gets me into trouble.
I’m finally slowing down to appreciate my youth. I am a twenty-something but I don’t want to be defined as a twenty-something. I have my bad days, but I have never felt more free, or more happy than I do now.
“Your freedom is not a penance. It’s a reward for all the time you gave up your freedom to take care of others. It is for this reason that you sometimes have had to be reminded not to collapse into a scene that erodes your liberty.” -Michael Lutin
I write this blog because I enjoy it. You might have fun hanging out with me here, and I hope that you do- but you also might not, and that’s okay. I hope you all enjoy your blog space as much as I do.