I’m not great at relationships. I’m not terrible at them either.
I’d like to think that I’m considerate and caring, thoughtful and fairly easy going. But I know that my weakness is complacency. Unless something is brought directly to my attention, I can be pretty oblivious.
I’m worried that while I think I’m fulfilling girlfriendish obligations, I’m missing something important.
I know that no one is perfect and every relationship is different and yadda yadda, but what I’m asking here is very realistic…
Going forward, I want to look at my new relationship from all angles, and determine some areas where I could improve or perhaps hear some new things I’ve never even thought of before. I want to make sure that I’m building a solid foundation for a healthy relationship.
So tell me, what are some of the things you made a point of doing, or really appreciate your partner doing in either your past or current relationships?
Here’s some examples of the sorts of things I’m referring to (though there is no limit). Let me know what you think…
-Always Kissing each other goodbye
-Always saying “I love you” in the morning
-Making a point of setting aside at least ___ minutes at the end of each day to just talk
-Having sex __ times a week/month etc.
-Making sure you allow him adequate time with his friends every week (and vise versa)
-Trying not to text too much during the workday. Or the complete opposite, making a point of checking in to ask how his day is going
-Keeping an open dialogue about a certain topic (sex, love, dates, your in-laws)
Really, it can be anything at all. Anything that you feel is important in your relationships. Again, I’m just looking for ideas. We’re not all experts, but I’m sure every one of my readers has done something right in a relationship. Tell me what it was!