“I’m talking about fate here – when feelings are so powerful it’s as if some force beyond your control is guiding you to someone who can make you happy beyond your wildest dreams.” -Alex & Emma

He is, in a word… amazing.

I love being with him. We can sit and talk for hours. We can snuggle up and be together in silence. We can be silly and laugh together. We can be honest with each other (and we are).

I can be myself with him. I don’t feel like I have to be perfectly prim and proper, on my best behaviour all of the time.

His friends welcome me with hugs and excited waves when I walk into their apartment. They tell me how much he likes me and they ask me to come back.

Yesterday I apologized for being in a bit of a grumpy mood in the morning and his reply blew me away. He said, “It’s okay. We are not going to be all ‘honey, darling’ all of the time. Sometimes you are going to be grumpy and sometimes I am going to be grumpy and sometimes we will even fight but that’s okay.”

He encourages me to to be better, without putting me down, and while still appreciating me as I am. He couldn’t care less if I showed up in yoga pants and without makeup. In fact, when he sees me rubbing at my eyes because my mascara makes them itchy, he tells me not to bother wearing makeup because I don’t need it. He makes me feel beautiful, all of the time.

He’s proud to be with me when we are with his friends. He acts like I’m his girl, and it’s a fact not a question. Even when he’s being shy, he will wink at me from a distance, or stop what he’s doing because he noticed my drink needs to be refilled or that I’m cold and I need a sweater. He takes care of me.

He’s thoughtful and considerate. He actually listens and hears the things I tell him. I am amazed when he brings up something that I don’t even remember telling him.

He calls when he says he’ll call. He shows up when he says he’ll show up. He doesn’t make promises he can’t keep. He’s not afraid to say “I might have to work on Saturday so I can’t be certain if I can see you” instead of telling me he’ll see me then cancelling at the last minute. Even when his work schedule gets crazy, I don’t get angry with him because he’s set my expectations appropriately (even if I might be disappointed when he has to work!).

He’s tender and caring. He gazes into my eyes, he strokes my cheek, he kisses me softly. He loves children and puppies. He’s actually a bit of a softie when it comes down to it (but don’t tell him I said that).

He works hard. He’s proud and confident and he takes care of the people in his life. He pays when we go out (OMGoodness, chivalry does exist!) but he’s not too proud to let me take the reigns. In fact, he calls me “boss” most of the time. It’s an inside joke… I told him one time that I was the boss and he took me far too seriously.

When I’m not with him, I’m thinking about him, but I’m not obsessing over him like it’s some school girl crush. It feels… mature. It feels natural and calm and perfectly progressive.

I trust him. When he told me last weekend that I was his only “fish” (a pun since we met on Plenty of Fish), I believed him. And, I liked that a tiny flash of disappointment crossed his face when I joked about having to throw back all of my other fish now that we’re exclusive. I like that he wants me to be his “girlfriend”, even though the term makes me feel like a teenager again.

I love that he makes me feel content. Even though the rest of my life is scrambling to turn right side up again, there is this sense of calm that he brings to the table… this sense of… security, perhaps.

Now I just need to cross my fingers that I can remember how to do this… be someones significant other. I have to dig deep into my past and remember the mistakes I’ve made in other relationships so that I can learn from them and be better in this one. And that friends, is scary… and the topic of a post for another day. For now, I’m going to go to bed smiling.

“I’m talking about fate here – when feelings are so powerful it’s as if some force beyond your control is guiding you to someone who can make you happy beyond your wildest dreams.” -Alex & Emma

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13 thoughts on ““I’m talking about fate here – when feelings are so powerful it’s as if some force beyond your control is guiding you to someone who can make you happy beyond your wildest dreams.” -Alex & Emma

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  2. Love this! You deserve a wonderful man like this! Amazing how God just finally puts that person in our lives when we almost least expect it. I don’t think you will have to dig to deep to remember how to be someones significant other. It sounds like he will guide you along the path and help you remember just fine. Congrats friend!

  3. I want to HUG this post, I want to HUG you and I want to HUG him! You deserve this SO very much and I am so glad you have met someone that gives you everything you could ever want!!! XOXO!

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  5. I’m speechless grinning here. So well deserved. Such beautiful descriptives. You’re not obsessing because he doesn’t leave you guessing. ;)

    Enjoy every moment.

    • Oh that is SO TRUE!! He’s totally up front and honest with me. There’s no reading between the lines and I LOVE THAT. I think I need to make a point of telling him how much I appreciate that. He probably doesn’t even realize it.

  6. With the disclaimer that I’ve been following you more via Tweets than your blog posts of late, I’m so incredibly happy for you! And, for what it’s worth, you are someone’s significant other already. You are being authentic, loving and vulnerable, and he is responding in kind. You don’t need to remember or recall anything. Just continue to trust in yourself and him! xoxo

    • It’s okay– I haven’t actually been blogging much lately. Most of what my readers know about him is from Twitter. :) xxo

      You are so right– but I still want to make a good effort to be present in this relationship and try to keep a clear mind and really pay attention to what I’m doing. That sentence was redundant but necessary haha.

  7. Two comments in one day. I don’t think that’s happened for months! Lol. I’m so glad things are going well for you. As everyone else said, you do deserve this. The kind of sucky thing about a new relationship is being afraid of losing it. I completely understand your last paragraph. It is very scary. Just try to focus on the here and now. Everything will work out. :-)

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