The Son of a Bitch Stood Me Up!


WTF did I do to deserve that?!

AA had texted me last weekend and asked me out. I told him that I wasn’t available until this weekend so we made plans for today (Sunday). I texted him on Tuesday to ask what the plan was because I was trying to arrange some plans with friends as well, and he suggested dinner. We hadn’t talked about a time or a place though so once again I texted him yesterday to ask if we were still on and if so, where and when (I was already second guessing as he hadn’t made an effort to get in touch and solidify a plan- and what’s that rule again, about guys taking the initiative– oh yeah, if he doesn’t, he’s just not that into you). He responded to my text “Yeah, of course we are! How about Earls on 4th, at 6:00?”. I agreed, we had a brief conversation about our weekends, and that was that.

Today, I didn’t hear from him at all. I’m used to guys getting in touch a couple of hours before a date to make sure things were still a go, and he didn’t, so I was already nervous and skeptical going in… and apparently it was for good reason.

I texted him an hour before and asked him to text or call when he got there. He didn’t respond. I debated going at all, but I didn’t want to end up being the asshole if he did show up and I didn’t, so I decided to go. I got there, I ran inside for change for the parking meter, ran back outside to toss the ticket in my windshield, and sat down at a table with a glass of wine to wait.

…and that is where I sat, alone, for twenty-five minutes, at a table for two in a dimly lit  restaurant, feeling completely stupid and humiliated. I sent AA a text asking if he was running late, of course no response. I called his phone, voicemail- it was off. So, I finished my glass of wine, left some cash on the table, and casually escaped to the safety of my car. I stopped at the liquor store on the way home for a bottle of red I’ve never tried before, I made myself some dinner, and I spent the next two hours on the phone with a guy who took the initiative to call…

More on him later. ;)

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32 thoughts on “The Son of a Bitch Stood Me Up!

  1. Ok… that is just so stupid. I don’t understand guys who stand people up just like I don’t get people who don’t show up to interviews. Seriously, are you that damned lazy that you can’t bother doing the courtesy of even making a simple phone call? It’s freaking pathetic.
    Anyway, I’m sorry you had to deal with that. It’s shitty but you dodged a bullet there.

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  3. Wow, some people are just plain rude! I’m sorry that you wasted your time, but glad to see you didn’t waste any time before moving on to the next. I am learning from this online dating thing that sometimes, you just have to say NEXT… which I am sure you already learned a long time ago.

  4. DICK! Plain and simple, that’s all there is to it. Unless he is in a coma or dead. If that is the case, I apologize. Otherwise, DICK!

    We can only hope that karma will take care of this a-hole. And I trust that it will.

    Good on you for moving on to the new guy.

  5. I’m so sorry it was AA… I had some hope for him. Oh well…. on to the NEXT. He’s definitely out there; it’s just too bad we have to go through all the BS before we find them. But, then again, that just makes it so much sweeter when we do find the real thing.

    • There was a reason I was holding back a little with him, my gut was telling me to be cautious.

      More than anything I just feel silly and like I wasted my time when this happens. Frustrating.

  6. Ugh!!! I felt like AA made it up when you actually spent time with him so I’m disappointed that he treated you disrespectfully. Can’t wait to hear more about the guy you did talk to later that evening, though. xoxo

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