How to be Alone: I Challenge You

“Develop interest in life as you see it; in people, things, literature, music – the world is so rich, simply throbbing with rich treasures, beautiful souls and interesting people. Forget yourself.”  -Henry Miller
(If I could add to this quote, I would say “don’t miss out on these treasures just because you’re single” and then, I’d take my own advice!)

Every day my friend Mel forwards me a song, a quote, or a poem that she knows I’ll love (I love more, the fact that she takes the time to do this for me!) A few days ago, she sent me this poem, and today I saw that another friend had posted the YouTube video on her Facebook. Perhaps this video is going viral right now, but I’ll take it as a sign that it deserves to be passed along. And so my blogger friends, especially my single blogger friends, please watch “How To Be Alone” by Tanya Davis and tell me what you think.

This poem struck me mostly because I’ve always been quite timid and shy. I’ve masked it well in recent years more so than I did as a child, so most people don’t see it in me, but I suffer from anxiety especially when it comes to doing things alone; things out of my comfort zone. I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately and so this post comes at a good time. I’ve decided that as a part of growing, a part of “becoming me“, I need to learn to spread my wings and fly on my own (wow, that was lame). 

I think that I might take a page from Tanya Davis’ book, and give some of these things a shot. I highly doubt I’ll go dancing alone, but dinner, a movie, even a walk in the forest sound doable.

If this is something you’ve never done before, if you suffer from anxiety like I do, or if you’re just not used to being alone… I challenge you to try it. Go out and do something on your own this weekend, and report back to me what you thought. I’ll send you a cookie.

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17 thoughts on “How to be Alone: I Challenge You

  1. Sometimes I like to go to the cinema alone. I haven’t done that for a while. I might go on Sunday afternoon since that’s looking like a quiet day.

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  4. I’ve eaten alone alot especially when I’m travelling and in airports. When I’m in restaurants alone, I like to have some sort of reading material but in airports it’s fun to people watch. I’ve been to a movie alone once. I think it was Finding Nemo and I was having boy problems and needed a laugh. I’ve also been to a concert alone in another city which was an experience but not one I’d like to repeat if possible.

    • Look at you, independent woman! lol
      Have you always done stuff like that alone, or was it something you had to conquer?
      I’m not used to doing stuff by myself… has nothing to do with being single but to do with anxiety, so it’s something I need to make an effort to work towards.

  5. I love going to movies, the ballpark and concerts alone. Mostly because I can go on my own time schedule and not worry about some one else being late/having to leave early. At the ballpark and concerts, being alone usually allows me to talk with new people, which is always interesting. I’ve gone to dinner alone a few times too. It’s a little nervewracking at first, but I really do like it.

    • You are brave! Dinner I have done alone once, and I enjoyed it. I took a magazine and just chilled. That was a few years ago though so I think I’ll have to do it again and follow it up with a solo movie! I’m not sure I could go to a concert alone… at this point, anyway. Perhaps that is what I’ll work up to!

      You are one brave girl!!

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