#2: Similar Life Goals
Getting married and having a big, crazy, happy family has always been high on my to-do list, and even though in recent years my desire to get married has tapered off, I know that when I’ve finally met “the one” I will definitely see marriage in the cards for me again.
It’s not just any marriage I see in my future though… it’s a traditional, happy, loving and monogamous marriage. I am not disillusioned to think that it will be easy, I am well aware that a successful marriage takes a lot of work on both parts, but I am willing to do my share and I would never marry someone unwilling to do his. As for monogamy, I’m sure “swinging” works for some folks (and even some of my friends partake) but it doesn’t work for me, and I will not bend on that. I don’t want to share my husband emotionally or physically nor do I feel that I should have to… and if by some stroke of fate he decided to cheat, I would be gone in a heartbeat. Yes, I am very traditional in this sense, but there are only two circumstances for which I would find divorce to be acceptable for me: abuse and adultery.
More important than marriage though, is my desire to be a Mother. I could become rich and famous and have waiters and maids and drivers but in the end it wouldn’t mean anything at all if I had never gotten to be a Mom. I’m absolutely fine being with someone who has children from a previous relationship, but I want some of my own as well. I want happy, healthy, energetic children who will never question their parents love, and I want a husband who is active in raising them.
Simply stated: This girl is seeking an old-fashioned alpha-male. Swingers, cheaters, and men who don’t want children, need not apply.