When Sarah asked me to do a guest post, I was delighted and touched…and really excited when she suggested I blog about my own “love list” given she’d been doing a fantastic series on this very topic.
So, here goes…my own (updated) love list – adapted from a post I did on my list of “must have’s” when I was on a self-imposed dating hiatus (which, incidentally, may be the case soon, unless I can figure out what I am going to do about CBE – captain blue eyes – in my own life!).
What do I want in love and a relationship? Beyond the things I’ve listed on the post noted above, I want to feel loved, I want to know, without a shadow of a doubt, that the man in my life is “into” me.
What do I mean by that?
I want to know that I’m a priority in their life, as much as I feel they’re a priority in my life. I don’t want to put in 80%, when they only put in 20%, I want to meet in the middle, and be on the same page, and for it to just “feel” right. I know that’s wishy-washy and I know that may sound airy-fairy, too, but recently, it’s become more evident that it’s something I feel is necessary for me because I don’t want to feel like I’m more invested in the relationship than they are. And I don’t think that is too much to ask.
I also want someone that views life as a wide-open space that is full of opportunity, happiness and potential. However, at the same time, I want someone that feels what they feel – even if it’s not happiness at that moment, shake it off, and move on, back to that happy place. I think that’s important…but I also think it’s important to let your emotions out, so you can move back into that place of happiness. Again, I realize that maybe it’s a little wishy-washy, but it’s how I feel.
Other things? Don’t nitpick, but be honest. Don’t laugh at me, but laugh with me. Be active, but you don’t have to be a gym hero (as long as you can keep up with me!), be engaged enough in my career and life “outside if us” that I know you care (and of course, I will do the same), be respectful, be playful, don’t be too serious (but serious where it counts), have fun, have a life outside of “us” and most of all, treat me as you would treat your sister/mother/grandmother – with respect.
Okay, this is starting to sound a little like a match.com profile so I will stop there before it starts to get lame ;) These are some of the areas that I think are important in a relationship, however, I also think you only truly know what you want in a relationship when you’ve met that special person….and I’m still searching, but I know hes’s out there. I just need to keep the faith, push forward, and in the meantime, embrace life for what it is – pretty fan-frickin-tastic.